{"id":87252,"date":"2021-07-07T17:05:25","date_gmt":"2021-07-07T15:05:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.reunion68.se\/?p=87252"},"modified":"2021-06-27T09:34:31","modified_gmt":"2021-06-27T07:34:31","slug":"07-00-66","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.reunion68.se\/?p=87252","title":{"rendered":"The Other Side of Summer Weddings"},"content":{"rendered":"<h5 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.tabletmag.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"center alignleft\" src=\"http:\/\/www.reunion68.com\/Biuletyn\/img\/tablet-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"35%\" \/><\/a><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #000080;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tabletmag.com\/sections\/community\/articles\/other-side-of-summer-weddings\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The Other Side of Summer Weddings<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/h5>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>ROKHL KAFRISSEN<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<hr style=\"height: 15px; background: #d0e6fa; width: 100%;\" \/>\n<h5 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Rokhl\u2019s Golden City: Mock marriages, drag brides, and the dangers of dancing<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/tablet-mag-images.b-cdn.net\/production\/91dfcf08ec8f4e1cb132300c866c30fdd58dd5fc-1000x1000.jpg?w=1250&amp;q=70&amp;auto=format&amp;dpr=1\" width=\"100%\" \/><span style=\"color: #808080;\"><em>ORIGINAL PHOTO: JILL FREEDMAN\/GETTY IMAGES<\/em><\/span><br \/>\n.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Once upon a summertime, we didn\u2019t have streaming video in our pockets or a PS5 controller in our hands or endless Spotify playlists cupped snugly around our ears. Back when it was a lot harder for folks to amuse themselves over long summer days, the mock Jewish wedding was a thing. A wedding, after all, is a highly choreographed piece of theater. It\u2019s got a beginning, middle and end. It\u2019s got dancing. It usually even comes with a catered meal, if not an open bar. And pretty much anyone can take part.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Mock Jewish weddings can still be found at<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.myjewishlearning.com\/2012\/09\/07\/mock-jewish-divorce\/\">summer camps<\/a><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0and on\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.jewishchronicle.org\/2020\/02\/03\/mock-mazel-tov-a-mock-wedding-at-milwaukee-jewish-day-school\/\">Jewish day school<\/a><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0curricula. The mock wedding isn\u2019t something I grew up with, although it makes sense to me as an immersive way of teaching the Jewish life cycle. But while I was researching\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000080;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tabletmag.com\/sections\/community\/articles\/golden-city-queer-yiddishkeit\">q<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>ueer Yiddishkayt<\/strong><\/span><\/a><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>in 2019, I\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/rokhl.blogspot.com\/2019\/06\/queer-yiddishkayt.html\">started to dig into a much stranger tradition<\/a>:<\/strong><\/span> the mock wedding in drag, once a staple of Catskills entertainment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Right before Klezkamp brought the klezmer revival to the Catskills in the mid-1980s, Peter Davis was there with his camera, capturing the end of a different era. In his 1983 documentary\u00a0<em>The Rise &amp; Fall of the Borscht Belt,\u00a0<\/em>we get a peek into the kind of entertainment one might\u2019ve expected at the smaller, less expensive hotels, namely the mock drag wedding. I knew\u00a0<em>Rise &amp; Fall\u00a0<\/em>might be an uncomfortable watch. I didn\u2019t think it would border on horror. But the film\u2019s particular aesthetic choices, combined with a poor-quality print, made a lighthearted summer\u2019s day activity appear darkly foreboding, like the prelude to an unspeakable evening of horrors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<div id=\"content\" class=\"content-alignment\">\n<div id=\"watch-description\" class=\"yt-uix-button-panel\">\n<div id=\"watch-description-text\" style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/FEp8D6glUvw\" width=\"680\" height=\"400\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">The mock drag wedding in the movie combines American Jewish, Christian, and Yiddish elements. At 1:16:40, for example, we see the \u201cgroom\u201d being dragged to the\u00a0<em>khupe<\/em>, a familiar trope in Yiddish vaudeville and comedy records. Where arranged marriages were the norm, it was not unexpected for the groom (or bride) to go unwillingly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">What\u2019s interesting is how boldly the film spells out its conclusion. Marriage was the site of the reproduction of the Jewish people. And for decades, Catskills hotels were the site of American Jewish matchmaking. With the end of the Jewish Catskills era, we are told, the very continuation of the Jewish people is now in question. The movie closes with the wild, screaming weirdness of the mock wedding, alongside an incongruously serious narrative voice of doom.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">But long before the first Jew unpacked a suitcase north of New York City, Jewish weddings were a prime location for the anxiety of continuity and assimilation. Those fears played out in front of guests and religious authorities, especially on the dance floor. And they continue to play out in new permutations, even today. If this long pandemic year opened with a new obsession with the\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tabletmag.com\/sections\/community\/articles\/plague-weddings\"><em>mageyfe khasene<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0(plague wedding), it is gradually coming to a close with the return of the non-<em>mageyfe khasene<\/em>. But what\u2019s a wedding without dancing?<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">A recent headline in the U.K.\u2019s\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thejc.com\/community\/community-news\/us-welcomes-rise-in-wedding-numbers-but-still-no-dancing-1.517725\"><em>Jewish Chronicle<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0read: \u201cUS [United Synagogue] welcomes rise in wedding numbers\u2014but still no dancing.\u201d As of June 21, the U.K. government lifted the cap on the number of wedding attendees, but dancing is still forbidden, save for a dance by the bride and groom. \u201cWe know weddings are not the same without dancing,\u201d said a United Synagogue executive, but the new regulations are in place to keep everyone safe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Here, dancing is a threat to public health and hygiene. But the dance floor was long understood as a place where communal boundaries became dangerously blurred. Jews and Christians might meet there, and Jewish men and women could mingle in the kind of proximity strenuously forbidden by religious authorities. The danger posed by the dance floor threatened not the body, but the soul, individual and communal. The wedding dance floor was all the more laden with symbolism, and for Jewish writers of fiction, it was irresistible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">In her fascinating new book,\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.barnesandnoble.com\/w\/it-could-lead-to-dancing-sonia-gollance\/1137338542\"><em>It Could Lead to Dancing: Mixed-Sex Dancing and Jewish Modernity<\/em><\/a><\/strong><\/span>, literary scholar Sonia Gollance examines the portrayal (across multiple languages) of Jews and Jewish dancing, between approximately 1780 and 1940. Dancing happened in public, making it a convenient way to talk about sex without talking about sex. As Gollance writes, \u201cdance scenes helped writers convey the impact of modern life on intimate personal relationships.\u201d The dance floor was a place young people could, for example, meet each other and outwit the efforts of the traditional matchmaker.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Gollance explains that these dance scenes have a function similar to that of Clifford Geertz\u2019s idea of \u201cdeep play.\u201d In these scenes, the \u201ccommunity has deep emotional investment because the dynamics of the game mirror existing social tensions.\u201d What happens on the dance floor can thus mirror or amplify that which might otherwise not be given voice. The empty dancefloor in the U.K. is a poignant example by its lack.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">In\u00a0<em>It Could Lead to Dancing<\/em>, Gollance examines Joseph Opatoshu\u2019s Yiddish novel\u00a0<em>A roman fun a ferd-ganef<\/em>\u00a0(Romance of a Horse Thief). The protagonist, Zanvl, has fallen in love with Rachel, and he wants to leave his life of crime and make a new life with her. But he is torn between Rachel and one of his underworld paramours, Beyle. The three meet at Zanvl\u2019s sister\u2019s wedding. Opatoshu uses popular dance to paint the vivid scene and externalize Zanvl\u2019s inner conflict. The interplay between dancer and spectator has Zanvl \u201cpassed\u201d between the two women, and rather than choosing between the two, he is swept away by the fiery, foreign dance, his moral decision swept right out of his hands, just another victim of mixed dancing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">On this dance floor, social norms are turned upside down. Beyle both chooses the song and pays for it. She tells the\u00a0<em>klezmorim<\/em>\u00a0to play the \u201cexotic\u201d\u00a0<em>pas d\u2019espagne<\/em>, a dance readers would have understood to embody the act of seduction. Beyle is part of the underworld milieu Zanvl is trying to escape and she can afford to pay. Beyle and Zanvl are then alone on the dance floor because, as Gollance notes, \u201cWedding musicians were frequently paid per dance by the dancers, rather than the hosts of the event, and only those dancers who paid for a particular dance had the right to participate.\u201d Such an arrangement allows for cinematic moments, like Beyle and Zanvl\u2019s \u201cracy\u201d\u00a0<em>pas d\u2019espagne<\/em>. It also gave rise to vulgar expressions, such as \u201c<em>az an oreme kale shtelt zikh tantsn, geyen di klezmer pishn!<\/em>\u201d (When a poor bride gets up to dance, the musicians go out to piss.) Such a saying points to the tension between the elevated values at the core of Jewish wedding (dancing as a vehicle for fulfilling the\u00a0<em>mitsve<\/em>\u00a0of gladdening the bride) and the coarsest economic realities of shtetl life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">\u201cDance both adds to a disreputable ambiance and aids in seedy flirtation,\u201d Gollance writes, \u201calthough in the case of Opatoshu\u2019s \u2026 wedding dance scene, it pushes the plot and character development forward while mirroring, in the very steps and figures, the struggles and interpersonal dynamics of the characters.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">Of course the wedding dance between Zanvl and Beyle, with its bright colors, seductive body movements, and brazen contact between a single man and a married woman, was the heightened reality of a novelist, mixing New World American literary aesthetics and Eastern European fantasies.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">In real life, traditional Eastern European Jewish weddings had their own drama. This was of a more subtle, but just as highly choreographed kind. And its narrative was propelled forward by a unique paradox at the heart of the Jewish wedding, as Gollance writes, \u201cthe expectation of joy with ritualized sorrow.\u201d That paradox provided a rhythm of its own, one which has been almost, but not entirely, lost in the destruction of Eastern European Yiddish folk life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">In the late 1990s, the members of the band Budowitz embarked on a project to reconstruct and record the ritual portions of a traditional Ashkenazi wedding. They were able to do this with the help of an Eastern European Yiddish wedding musician (with an astonishing musical memory), and enormous amounts of ethnomusicological rigor. The result was the CD\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000080;\" href=\"https:\/\/rsa.fau.edu\/album\/36332\"><em><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Wedding Without a Bride<\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/a>. Don\u2019t be put off by the fear of a gloomy listen.\u00a0<em>Wedding Without a Bride\u00a0<\/em>has some of the hottest\u00a0<em>tsimbl<\/em>\u00a0work you\u2019ll hear anywhere, and even in its saddest moments, it is the complete opposite of some dreary museum piece.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">As the liner notes explain: \u201cthe alternation between joy and sorrow runs like a thread through the entire ceremony \u2026\u201d The\u00a0<em>mitsve<\/em>\u00a0of\u00a0<em>mesameyekh zayn khosn-kale<\/em>\u00a0(making the bride and groom joyful) was never forgotten among the expressions of sorrow. This alternating pulse is the vital rhythm to the traditional Jewish wedding, one not easily captured in a few dance tunes at a two-hour party.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">There were tunes and forms for each part of the wedding:\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=syVMgTFIytA\">walking to the veiling<\/a>,<\/strong><\/span> the veiling (<em>badekns<\/em>),<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=oziq2GyEWHo\">singing for the bride<\/a><\/strong><\/span>, singing for the groom, the\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=gxmFbtQj44s\">march to the canopy<\/a>,<\/strong><\/span> and so on. And of course, there were the\u00a0<em>badkhn<\/em>\u2019s exhortations to the bride to cry her eyes out at her fate, before being made glad again by the dancing in her honor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\">As the band describes in the liner notes, \u201cwe were surprised at how the wedding, from beginning to end, offered a complex and emotionally subtle work as a form of its own, as intricate as any classical symphony.\u201d\u00a0<em>Wedding Without a Bride\u00a0<\/em>suggests to us a new way of thinking about the Jewish wedding, an emotionally and spatially expansive place in time that, in a time of empty dance floors and missing family members, feels more important than ever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>MORE:<\/strong>\u00a0Even if you\u2019re not going to any weddings this summer, buy Sonia Gollance\u2019s\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000080;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.sup.org\/books\/title\/?id=31836\"><strong><em>It Could Lead to Dancing<\/em><\/strong><\/a>\u00a0and, if you can, get your hands on\u00a0<a style=\"color: #000080;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.israel-music.com\/budowitz\/wedding_without_bride\/\"><strong><em>Wedding Without a Bride<\/em><\/strong>.<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong>ALSO:<\/strong>\u00a0Professor\u00a0<strong>Samuel Kassow<\/strong>\u00a0will give the Naomi Prawer Kadar Annual Lecture, \u201cDr. Emanuel Ringelblum: Historian and Fighter.\u201d July 1, 9 a.m. ET. In English, Zoom link\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"http:\/\/kadar.yiddish.nu\/prof-samuel-kassow\">here<\/a><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0\u2026 Paris Yiddish Center (Bibliotheque Medem) is offering scholarships for its\u00a010th Summer Program for\u00a0<strong>Yiddish Language and Literature<\/strong>, Aug. 9-27. Deadline to apply for a scholarship is July 15. Scholarships\u00a0will cover most of the registration fee and there\u2019s no age limit, though they are mostly intended for university students. See\u00a0their\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #000080; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.yiddishparis.com\/scholarships\/\">website<\/a><\/strong><\/span>\u00a0for more information \u2026 Live music continues to trickle back into the veins of New York City. On Aug. 6,\u00a0<strong><a style=\"color: #000080;\" href=\"https:\/\/fb.me\/e\/gwHnZUedq\">Slavic Soul Party\u00a0returns to DROM<\/a>.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><span style=\"color: #808080;\"><em><strong>Rokhl Kafrissen<\/strong> is a New York-based cultural critic and playwright.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<hr style=\"height: 15px; background: #d0e6fa; width: 100%;\" \/>\n<div id=\"content\" class=\"content-alignment\">\n<div id=\"watch-description\" class=\"yt-uix-button-panel\">\n<div id=\"watch-description-text\" style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p><em>Zawarto\u015b\u0107 publikowanych artyku\u0142\u00f3w i materia\u0142\u00f3w nie reprezentuje pogl\u0105d\u00f3w ani opinii Reunion&#8217;68,<\/em><em><br \/>\nani te\u017c webmastera Blogu Reunion&#8217;68, chyba ze jest to wyra\u017anie zaznaczone.<br \/>\nTwoje uwagi, linki, w\u0142asne artyku\u0142y lub wiadomo\u015bci prze\u015blij na adres:<br \/>\n<\/em><span style=\"color: #000080;\"><strong><em><a style=\"color: #000080;\" href=\"mailto:webmaster@reunion68.com\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">webmaster@reunion68.com<\/span><\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<hr style=\"width: 100%;\" \/>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Other Side of Summer Weddings ROKHL KAFRISSEN Rokhl\u2019s Golden City: Mock marriages, drag brides, and the dangers of dancing ORIGINAL PHOTO: JILL FREEDMAN\/GETTY IMAGES . 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